Also your shoes will always be sticky now and I do not have a solution. They will go on tour and boom — now they are invisible. OK, I just need to say in all the caps in the world: This. They sleep on a pile of garbage bags next to a pile of their own vomit. We might be at a party having a great night together, and then I get a song idea and have to lock myself and my instruments (look, sometimes I do bring them with me, you never know) in the bathroom for a while because it's a very good chord progression. It's got to be kind of weird to listen to them, but you're here now and they're not. We agreed to call off our trysts if we became too attached or started to get jealous. So here’s my question: WHAT am I supposed to make of this? He said he’d been forcing himself to hold back because I manage his band, but I was too smart/attractive/fun and he couldn’t take it anymore.In her words, here are Erin's favorite and least favorite things about dating musicians: The band plays out a lot, so if your birthday falls on a Friday or Saturday you can forget about having him there for the celebration. No one misses a gig for He's too creative for Swiffering, showing up on time, wearing a collared shirt to a court date, talking about anything other than music even though he's alienating 90 percent of the other people in the room, and/or holding a W2 job. A lot of bands will come and watch the opening acts in an attempt to appear grounded and humble. And finally, Erin's favorite "types" from the book: Best band boys: The Boy with the Thorn in His Side ("Behind the hatred there lies a murderous desire…for love…") His moods range from dark to forlorn, his playlist from "Tainted Love" to "Boys Don't Cry," and he "gets hives instead of a hard-on at the thought of you having a threesome." Ready for a Belle and Sebastian listening marathon? "He may be a bit much to handle, mood-wise, but he's got empathy and emotional understanding—two things you can't teach someone," Erin says.
I had to stop myself and say “OMG this is all in your head.My friend Wes of The Family Records suggested that saying something like “I like Easter! I’m pretty sure everyone thought this whole “writing a piece about dating advice from boys in bands” was a farce-driven pickup move, which was embarrassing. Here are the 8 dating lessons I’ve learned, taken from interactions with old band friends, new band friends, and “when we’re in the same city” band friends — including, but not limited to, members of I Am Love, Savoir Adore, Das Racist, Oberhofer, Diplo, Cubic Zirconia, Bearstronaut, and The New Highway Hymnal. Keeping things a bit mysterious makes it a little exciting. Break the rules and you can have the best time of your life, as evidenced by breaking into a closed pool with one of the bands, because everyone decided that they wanted to after-party in the hot tub. …and definitely couldn’t have been done if rule following was a thing. This thinking alone has sustained a “relationship” that I’ve had with X band boy, because we’re kind of just like ‘whatever.’ It works, and we do have fun. I then decided to stop ASKING them what their advice would be, and instead extrapolated advice from my actual experience hanging out with a bunch of bands during SXSW. Related: What Your Taste In Music Says About You On A Date Band members are, by nature, pretty rebellious. Ya never get hurt, ya always have fun, and if you ever get lonely, just go to the record store and visit your friends.” It’s true. However, most of my band mates and musician friends basically live on a stack of pizza boxes, whisky, and Muscle Milk. If they are inspired to write something, whatever you're doing has to stop. Also, why is Smash Mouth your favorite band of all the time? All those songs I played you when we first met couldn't have been about you. I sleep on an awesome bed in a great apartment, full of color and life, and have only vomited on my own floor once and that was years ago and I had the flu. Then they cannot be your favorite band of all time. Get ready to listen to a bunch of songs about their exes.